About Yoni Massage

Yoni is the ancient sanskrit word for ‘vagina’.  It’s a word of honouring, translating as ‘source’ or ‘sacred cave’.  In Hinduism, the female genitalia was regarded as a divine symbol of sexual pleasure and matrix of generation and the visible form of the Goddess Shakti.  The yoni is the sacred gateway to our connection with the source of all life.  A woman in touch with the power of her yoni is a woman of Grace, Flow, Sensuality, Wisdom and Compassion.  Like a Goddess herself.

A yoni massage

takes place after a whole body sensual and energetically sexually arousing massage.  After a woman is relaxed, after her breasts and belly have been gently and sensually massaged, she may be ready for the yoni massage.  It’s always your choice and call as to whether or not you want the yoni massage and you would be asked by your tantric practitioner before she or he inserted a finger gently inside, for the yoni to invite further in.

The purpose of a yoni massage is not to arouse, although this can be a welcome side-effect, and in some cases, orgasm is the result.  It is likely to be energetically pleasurable, and for some woman, it is a new experience to have so much gentle attention applied to the yoni, resulting in new and interesting previously undiscovered sensations. You may even experience full body energetic orgasmic bliss.

The purpose of the yoni massage is really to heal.  Women store a lot of their trauma and unexpressed emotional pain in the walls of the vagina.  Over time, this can build up, resulting in loss of sensation, and maybe creating the lack of desire for sex.  The intention of the yoni massage is to gently de-armour the walls of the vagina through holding various points within, allowing it to become more responsive, soft, and receptive to self-pleasure and to love-making.   This process can also facilitate the release of old emotions and the resurfacing of memories, which can be safely moved through the body and released with sound and the expression of emotion.

A yoni massage connects a woman with her pelvic bowl, which is a really centred place to move through the world from.

Other  benefits of yoni massage

  • Help you lubricate and or learn how to ejaculate
  • Help you become more naturally orgasmic, or learn how to orgasm for the first time
  • Help you reconnect with your luscious feminine energy, your body, and your sexual life force energy
  • Help heal vaginismus (painful or impossible intercourse)

Any man can become “multi-orgasmic”.

It only requires a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques.

Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking. Once a man becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner. 

Multiple orgasm versus Ejaculatory orgasm. Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near ejaculation or “point of no return”. At this point a man will experience a series of genital contractions lasting three to five seconds. These contractions are “pelvic orgasms” and at first feel like a “fluttering” or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations will become progressively more intense. When approaching “the point of no return” the goal is not to crest over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles. Learning to control the PC muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.

How is multiple orgasm possible? The first key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during ejaculation. The second key to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation. The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or “PC muscle” as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you’ll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward.

To learn more about becoming a mulit orgasmic man explore our tantra sessions.

 

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The word tantra comes from India and Tibet. It is the science and the art of being alive, based on practices that consciously explore life experientially. This practical exploration covers:

  • what does it mean to be a man? to be a woman? how can men and women really meet?
  • what is the depth of love? what is the height of sex?
  • how to create a fulfilling relationship without fear of rejection while staying true to yourself?
  • what is god/spirit?
  • what is death and how can it have meaning?
  • Desire, passion, pleasure – are they selfish or can they be spiritual?
  • how to be attached – committed, caring, passionate – and at the same time non-attached – selfless, tranquil, trusting?
  • What is the sense of life?
  • What is the most beneficial interaction between body, mind and spirit?
  • what is the nature of experience and perception? what is the relationship between the perceiver and the perceived?
  • how is consciousness different from thinking?
  • how do I distinguish truth from illusion?
  • how to feel more alive, become more charismatic and attractive to others?
  • how to create the reality that fulfills you?

In fact all the fundamental questions of life.

Tantra has answers to all these questions: it also has many explanations of how life works based on an understanding of energy, which is not part of our mechanistic culture, yet a grasp of which enables us to interact creatively with many aspects of life that were previously mysterious forces by which we were helplessly buffeted: relationships, love, sexuality, fate.
Above all, tantra does not prescribe answers: unlike a religion, it does not tell you what to think and believe. It gives you structures to explore these themes experientially and personally, and then to come to your own conclusions based on these experiences. The only authority in tantra is your own heart, your own sense of what is true for you and what your spirit needs to follow.
If you are interested in these burning life questions, if you want to find your own answers not just be given them by a higher authority, if you want to spend time with other people who want to explore what is the sense of life and how relationships function, then tantra is for you. It covers the subjects they didn’t dare explore at school!

Tantra is for free thinkers, for rebels, for non-conformists,
for seekers of alternatives,

for lovers, and lovers of life,
for truth seekers,
for seekers of excitement, for seekers of tranquility,
for seekers of meaning, making sense of existence,

for seekers of pleasure and delight,
for those who seek god,
for those who seek themselves.

What can the tantric path offer me?

  • Enjoy more energy and aliveness
  • Develop the ability to relax, to get out of your head, and be open to experience life in the moment
  • open your heart to love – of yourself and of your partner
  • find more sensitivity to touch and to energy
  • experience lovemaking as an exchange of energy
  • connect your sex with your heart and your spirit
  • feel your value and beauty, feel your desirability
  • experience many ways of enjoying and expressing and sharing sexual energy as well as or instead of genital sex
  • Develop witness consciousness to not have your buttons pressed, but be free of self destructive behaviour
  • Find freedom from addiction and obsessiveness
  • learn to become more present and focused
  • learn how to keep a long-term partnership alive and sexy
  • learn how to prolong lovemaking and choose when and if to ejaculate
  • be able to surrender to the pleasurable streamings of aliveness and energy through your body
  • free yourself from self-consciousness and self-criticism and experience life directly and immediately.
  • Be free to choose the reality you wish to create and live.

The Background of western tantra.

The word tantra has several meanings, one of which is that of “scriptures”, words of wisdom that have been taught orally by a teacher, and then written down, words of experience rather than words of a theory or philosophy. Many texts go back as much as 4000 years, and the wisdom itself is thought to come from pre-vedic, tribal times. The body of knowledge is arrestingly similar to that taught as fire medicine in the native American tradition, and there is good reason to believe that it is the remains of an ancient culture from times when people lived close to the earth, the goddess was honoured, and the relationship between men and women was not an expression of property but a celebration of the the mystery of life, seen in the macrocosm as the embrace of the sun and the earth, and in the microcosm as the miracle of perception embodied in the dance of Shiva and Shakti as consciousness and energy, sperm and egg meeting to create new life.

With the advent of the major religions tantra went underground, and became an esoteric tradition that still exists in quiet places, but maligned and distorted by the public imagination – in the West as sex orgies, in India as black magic. This successfully frightens many people away from experiencing its life enhancing and consciousness expanding teachings.

Tantra divides into two major traditions: the right-handed path and the left-handed path. Both see the universe arising out of the ecstatic dance and sexual union of the feminine and masculine principles, energy and consciousness, represented in the forms of god and goddess.

The right-handed path works with the sexual energy through sublimation, visualization, and meditation as worship of these principles.

The left-handed path challenges the follower to embody these energies, to become the god or the goddess and manifest energy and consciousness in themselves, in their thoughts and actions, in their awareness.

The left handed path is practiced not only by professionals, priests or monks withdrawn from life, but by ordinary women and men living in the middle of life, in the market place. Relationships, and especially one’s primary sexual relationship, can therefore become the conscious spiritual path of growth.

Instead of repressing desire and sexuality and pleasure as a distraction from the spiritual path of transcendence, the student gives the self into it completely, letting it become the tattva, the gateway, through which to lose the ego in the surrender to that which is greater than the self. Desire followed with totality and abandon takes one beyond, beyond the duality of attachment or non-attachment,

guilty or not guilty, sexual or spiritual, into being innocently in bliss.

In the 1970s the Indian mystic Osho, previously known as Rajneesh or Baghwan, created a blend of tantra and humanistic psychotherapy that became tantra for the West. This was brought to Europe by Margot Anand as SkyDancing Tantra, by Michael Plesse and Gabriele St Clair of Orgoville International to Germany, and in a later wave by Sarita in France/UK and Astiko in Spain as Osho neo-tantra. Daniel Odier teaches Kashmiri Shivaite tantra in Paris. Margot trained teachers in 1991-2 and set up SkyDancing Institutes in the USA, Germany, Switzerland, the Netherlands, and France, including that in the UK directed by John Hawken.

Some traditionally-minded tantric students and practitioners fear that the practice of left-handed tantra without long preparation and real dedication can debase the legacy of tantra and entangle workshop participants deeper in their own egos. There are indeed many tantra teachers who offer, and participants happy to consume, tantra as a new age entertainment and social activity. The attempt to simultaneously bring together sexuality and spirituality is a high endeavour. Yet if a serious student finds an experienced and inspiring teacher she or he can live moments of transcendence and empowerment, and create lasting personal transformation. And the path, the journey itself, is full of insights, moments of joy, and positive change.

Article written by John Hawken, The Tantric Path 

 

Tantric Massage

Tantra is founded on this Interconnection and Unity of the Universe. Through the intimate connection of body and universe, we can understand how sex and orgasm can be seen as a cosmic and divine experience. Sex may be used by Tantric’s to heighten their energies, consciousness, and connection to the universe – which can aid healing (peace, wholeness, power, bliss) and growth (self esteem). It is a path of inner union and ultimately union with divine. Tantra is a path to enlightenment.

In Tantra we know that if we create on the outer level what we wish to experience on the inner level that it will be easier to achieve this. Thus, we dress ourselves and create our environment into that which best expresses what we want to find in ourselves and our relationship. We have created the outer for you in order to bring forth these qualities in each of you and in your love-making.

The human being does not exist in isolation, but is part of the One and is connected to all other matter in the universe. Tantra is founded on this Interconnection and Unity of the Universe. Through the intimate connection of body and universe, we can understand how sex and orgasm can be seen as a cosmic and divine experience. Sex may be used by Tantric’s to heighten their energies, consciousness, and connection to the universe – which can aid healing (peace, wholeness, power, bliss) and growth (self esteem).

Tantra offers you a way to let go of limiting beliefs and wake up to the knowledge of who you really are. In India this ancient tradition teaches us to honor both the feminine and the masculine within ourselves, and helps us to cultivate their union in a balanced way. It is a path of inner union and ultimately union with divine.

Tantra is sexuality in a spiritual context. It’s methods are natural, joyful, and life-affirming. In all the great traditions of Sacred Sexuality, a sexual shaman works with sexual energy to open the heart, expand consciousness, and heal body, mind, & spirit. Sexual healing is too often left out of holistic health care, and yet can be essential to a person’s true unfoldment.

Tantra is a path to enlightenment. It is nicknamed the “science of ecstasy” and focuses on heightening and prolonging the special awareness and rapport that exists between lovers during lovemaking. This view holds that the greatest source of energy in the universe is sexual, and places high value on ritualized intercourse. Sexual orgasm is seen as a cosmic and divine experience.

Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques, you learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner, and ultimately all others through your partner. In this way, you use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through (and with) them you become one with all. Rather than having sex for your own pleasure only, you have sex for the sake of giving love to all beings.

Tantric philosophy also teaches that everything is to be experienced playfully, yet with awareness and a sense of sacredness in every gesture, every sensory perception, and every action.

There are many, many benefits. The greatest benefit is the awakening of an inner joy that you may have never known was there. You become able to open your heart to yourself at a deep level and make changes in your life that are aligned with your heart’s desires. In addition, by gaining mastery of your sexual energy, you manifest loving and fulfilling relationships, expand your capacity for spiritual ecstasy, and improve your health and vitality.

Tantric sex is meditative, spontaneous and very intimate lovemaking. You learn to prolong the act of making love and to focus on, rather than dispel, potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness. Tantra transports sexuality from simply doing to actually being. There is no end goal in Tantric sex, only the present moment of an ideal, harmonious union. Tantra teaches you to worship your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love. Lovemaking between two partners, when entered with awareness, can be a gateway to sexual and spiritual ecstasy alike. Tantric sex attempts to awaken powerful psychic energies within through which we can enter into higher states of consciousness.

Tantric sexual practices involve heightening sexual energy so that it can be utilized for spiritual growth and healing. They help you embrace the divine nature of your sexual energy and learn to flow it to the upper energy centers of your body, particularly your heart. When you do that, your sexual energy becomes a vehicle for the expression of love. In lovemaking there is an emphasis on igniting the woman’s shakti (female sexual energy) which is seen as the creative doorway to the divine and therefore a sacred gift to men. When this happens a powerful circuitry of energy occurs which increases the vibration of love between partners.

In order to experience ecstasy it is important to clear the path in the body – and that means healing emotional wounds stored in your cellular memory. With the guidance of an instructor, you can dissolve barriers that limit you and find a whole new level of freedom in your body and mind. In addition, because we live in a patriarchal world, most people experience disharmony between the male and female aspects of the psyche. Healing work helps bring about the integration of these parts of yourself, which is essential to manifesting healthy loving relationships.

Tantra is a revolutionary approach to life that offers us to live life with intensity and awareness. With Tantra we go through life by saying “yes”. It is an attitude towards life, always staying open and alert to the deeper content of our experiences. It is a state of acceptance where we include and embrace life in order to expand the consciousness and horizons of our being.

It is nowadays a common misunderstanding that Tantra is only a set of erotic exercises, only possible for acrobats, or a set of mental exercises without erotic union. The erotic part of Tantra is around 10 % of a whole science of how to live life. Therefore sexuality is a natural part of Tantra, just as natural as the wisdom of how to be happy and healthy. Tantra teaches that everything is energy and how to use, increase and refine energy in our lives in all areas.

The tantric approach on sexuality

Due to the enormous intensity of this erotic union, the consciousness of both partners develops and fuses, at the beginning between them selves and later with the Cosmic Consciousness. The indescribable beatitude then felt embraces all things and beings. All that still subsists is a never-ending thirst for unity, only a Lover and a Loved-one. Tantra is a genuine and exceptional path which puts sexuality in its right place, recreating the missing spiritual dimension of the sexual experience.

This practice expands the human consciousness to the greatest extent and considerably enriches the knowledge of Man and the Universe. Tantra is much more than an old rediscovered wisdom from the East and much more than a theoretical science. Tantra is a practical path with clear steps, ready to be taken by the ones hungry to experience and understand the full potential of life.

Controlling the sexual energy

One of the Tantric, essential deeds, is to have full control over the sexual energy, which makes it possible to experience orgasms in the whole body without ejaculating. The orgasm and the ejaculation are 2 different mechanisms. The orgasm comes first with a great amount of energy and pleasure which can attract the ejaculation and therefore it is a general misunderstanding that these are one and the same process.

But a gradual training can separate these 2 mechanisms, which makes the man able to experience long lasting multiple orgasms, without loosing one drop of seamen and the woman to have deep orgasms without any discharge of energy. We can through the Tantric lovemaking build up more pleasure and intensity, which leaves us full of energy instead of being exhausted. On the contrary we will obtain and regenerate a lot of energy. And the communion in the couple relationship will become deeper and create more love and happiness. The man will become more masculine, be able to experience more pleasure, get control over his energy and be fully present with his woman. The woman will become more feminine, open herself for deeper orgasms, become able to let go and surrender to the man.

How to experience tantra through massage

The Tantra Massage is a deeply relaxing, rejuvenating and healing experience that awakens your sensitivity and energy, and increases your capacity to experience more pleasure.

In the Tantra Massage the erotic energy is awakened in a controlled way, where the energy is spread out in the body and used as a way to heal the body, mind and soul. In stead of loosing energy through ejaculation and explosive orgasms, you will learn to circulate and raise the erotic energy to even higher states of pleasure and be fully energized and satisfied on all levels.

Embarking upon the Tantric journey will lead us through unknown and very interesting regions inside our being. It is a journey of discovery in which we will discover the Whole Universe inside each of us.

In the last few decades, Tantra has awoken the curiosity of the West not so much as a spiritual method to access ecstatic and deeply spiritual experiences, but rather as a means to become an Olympian in the bedroom! Making love for hours in a row is a reality and a genuine art anyone can learn, with the condition the person is tenacious, patient and has will power. However, Tantra is not solely about being a Titan in the bedroom, nor about jumping upside down and contorting ourselves in gymnastic lovemaking positions, but it does open up the gateway to wonderful lovemaking, where there is more control, beauty and transfiguration, and we can access much more refined and sublime states of consciousness and we can reach a more elevated vision of reality. Tantra does not aim at breaking records, but is a very clear path to learn to manifest real love.

Those people who have experienced extraordinary, even ecstatic experiences during love making know that they feel much more than physical pleasure. It may occur as a unique experience or lived many times through lovemaking. There are people who many times in their lives experience spontaneous states of ecstasy ,but do not share these experiences, because they fear that others might consider them to be a little crazy, or that they are exaggerating. Sometimes this experience occurs during love making when a powerful orgasm or a profound mystical state develops. Sometimes, we don’t know how to describe this state, we ask if it actually happened or whether we were dreaming, but something tells us that indeed, this state is very real.

Although, many people believe that these experiences occur by chance, actually they are quite well defined structurally. If we know what to do we can achieve these states, through our own efforts and practice. There are certain ingredients and recipes which help to create this reality. During such experiences, there is a total merging of love and eroticism, which opens up the entrance to the ecstasy of pure love. We want you to know that mystical ecstatic experiences are not just for the saints and enlightened beings, but are accessible to everyone, as long as the techniques and wisdom are practised with clarity and discernment as expounded by the Ancient Tantric Teachings.

The Tantrics say there are certain human qualities that make the journey of self discovery much easier:

  • Curiosity: be like a curious child, free of any preconceived ideas and prejudices, seeking to discover the world – both inside and outside.

  • Enthusiasm.

  • Courage: when we approach areas unfamiliar to our previous experience we can be confronted with a daunted feeling. Having the courage to venture into the unknown will help you to make big steps.

  • Mental flexibility: Tantra is the path of saying ‘Yes’ to life. This requires a mental flexibility and the elimination of all prejudices and preconceived ideas, in order to embrace the full experience of what it has to offer.

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“Eroticism is one of the basic means of self-knowledge, as indispensible as poetry.” Anais Nin

Red Lotus Temple of Tantra is in the process of training our Tantric Goddesses. If you are interested in learning more about training please please visit the career and training page. If you are a seeker please be patient as it takes time to train our goddesses, each goddess goes through an intensive training so she can offer you the best there is in tantra massage and education. Of course each goddess has trained in many other modalities and uses them to personalize each session.

Authentic Tantric Dakinis trained in the temple arts.

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